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A Great Day

May 25, 2012~

This is as still as he got, so I'm ignoring the goofy face!
   I felt some sort of mission to give Julian a really, really great day today. We started out by putting a couple hours in at Future Flipz. Julian was starving by the end of that so we went home and made sandwiches together. We looked up some sea creatures on the internet and then tracked down an Octonauts episode we'd never seen before. Jason had a half day so he came home during Julian's quiet time. When that was over, we let Julian pick a movie to watch with daddy so Kung Fu Panda 2 went on. He was ready to play outside when the movie ended. That didn't go so well. (The little girl next store proved herself quite the bully so that's not going to be a place he'll be playing any more.) He came in a tearful and sweaty and hungry so we cleaned him up and headed off for dinner. 

We had an Arigato's Groupon and thought Julian would find it a lot of fun. He did. He kept saying it was "awesome" and telling us what a good day it was. (I love that he was so appreciative and voiced it!) Arigato's is right next door to Toys R' Us so he about died of happiness when he realized we were pulling in the parking lot. He wasn't even sad that we weren't buying anything. He was so tired by the time we got home that Jason had to carry him in. It is a challenge to wear that kid out, but I succeeded today!

Part of me wishes every day could be like this and that we could just move from one delightful Julian-pleasing things to another, but I know that's not a good way to raise a child. The world does not and never will revolve around him and does not exist to amuse us. I am not his concierge and we're not about to go further into debt to hear him say, "Awesome!". I've observed families that do live that way and there's not much gratitude after awhile, anyway. So the point is, a great day is only great when it's out of the ordinary.

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Marriage Assessment

Thursday, April 19~



I'm almost always in a book or Bible study of some sort. Right now we're reading one of Lysa TerKeurst's. She wrote this fantastic marriage relationship inventory that really grabbed my attention! I have to share it.



1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Assessment



Am I patient with my spouse? (I am flexible and understanding.) EPHESIANS 4:2-3



Am I kind to my spouse? (I am kind in thought, words, and actions toward them.) EPHESIANS 4:31-32



Am I supportive (not envious) with my spouse? (I do not keep score when I feel I do more.) JAMES 3:16-18



Am I encouraging (not boastful) to my spouse? (I do not brag about my accomplishments while downplaying theirs.) HEBREWS 3:13



Am I humble (not proud) with my spouse? (I do not think my agenda is more important than my spouse’s agenda.) 1 PETER 5:6



Am I gracious (not rude) to my spouse? (I build up my spouse with my words spoken in private and public.) EPHESIANS 4:29



Am I selfless (not self-seeking) with my spouse? (I focus on my spouse’s needs and wants and balance them with my own.) PHILIPPIANS 2:3-4



Am I self-controlled (not easily angered) with my spouse? (I do not have a short fuse or quick temper.) PROVERBS 15:1



Am I able to forgive and let go (keeping no record of wrongs) with my spouse’s shortcomings? (I do not use my spouse’s past shortcomings as ammunition in today’s disagreements or allow these things to taint our communication today.) COLOSSIANS3:12-14



Do I delight in being faithful to God (not delighting in evil)? (I seek to live a pure life and choose not to flirt with sin.) EPHESIANS 4:1



Do I rejoice with the truth? (I actively pursue God’s truth over Satan’s lies.) JOHN 8:31-32



Do I seek to protect my spouse? (I fill in the gaps where they feel weak and
vulnerable.) 1 THESSALONIANS 5:11



Do I trust my spouse? (I give my spouse the benefit of the doubt.) 1 PETER 3:8



Do I keep hope alive in my marriage? (I trust God with “our” future, not “my” future.) JEREMIAH 29:11



Do I persevere in my marriage? (I look for solutions to problems rather than look for a way out.) MATTHEW 5:33



Am I devoted to the permanence of our marriage? (I believe that divorce is not an option for us.) MALACHI 2:16

In the scramble of handling all the details of a life full of little people, romance and love can sometimes take a backseat. We have to not only be intentional with our active love, but also be intentional about keeping our love fresh, exciting, and fun. You can’t compare your circumstances and relationship with others; that will only serve to drain and discourage you.
Keep your focus on making your marriage the best it can be. It is what you put into your marriage that you’ll be able to pull out of your marriage. The grass isn’t greener on the other side; it is greener where you water and fertilize it. -Lysa TerKeurst

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